Soul Sunday

I love when I sit in church and the message really speaks to me. Some messages being in a home ward with no children yet do not speak to me. I am sure they will once we have a child but sometimes I leave feeling like I am still stuck in between singles ward and home ward not quite fitting in either place.

Today was our Ward Conference, our stake president is a great man. I actually know him through work since he is a lawyer we have used many times and I think it makes me listen all the more when he is speaking.

The lesson that stuck out to me the most today was in Gospel Doctrine about nourishing our marriage and our families, we watched a video of a injured husband in the hospital with his wife by his side and there child and family members in the waiting room. After we had a discussion about what we noticed. A few comments were, his injury didn't just affect one person he had many people waiting to find out if he is okay, how was he injured he wasn't with his wife since she was fine was he doing something he shouldn't have been. Then Bro. Stephenson said he was looking at a plant that is dying in his house and wondering why, he is watering it and he knows how to take care of it yet he must not be doing enough.

We all know how to nourish our marriages but do we do it? In the last couple of months I have seen couples get divorced I never thought would. When I first met them years ago they were happy loving families, but like life does they were thrown trials and instead of sticking together through them they drifted apart. Like the people in the waiting room their decisions have not just affected them but their children and extended families. I have seen parents who once having children have stopped being a couple and are now just mom and dad, they pour all there time and energy into their children thinking they are giving them the world but in the end when at the end of the day they have no time for each other they are actually hurting them.

I don't presume to know exactly how I will be after we have children. I know that our every weekend dates and our out of town weekends will decrease while they are young of course. But I also know I grew up in a house where we did not sleep in our parents room or bed ever that was their space, that almost every Friday night we had a babysitter so my parents could go out, that my grandparents watched us a few times a year so my parents could have a week or a weekend away together and I know I saw my parents kiss, hug and love each other daily. They showed me they not only loved me, but they loved each other.

I pray I never stop nourishing my marriage and my family, that I love my children by always loving my husband and putting our family relationships to each other and to Heavenly Father first.